Stress is awesome (in moderation)
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Stress is awesome (in moderation)

“Wasn’t that awesome?!” our team captain came bounding into the locker room.

Painful. Intense. Exhausting, sure. But, awesome?

Coach had run us so hard I thought I’d puke. I was dying! And I was freaking out a little that my lungs and legs were burning SO bad.

She loved to push herself. She had a much more positive view of physical stress than I did. She knew stress wasn’t always bad or toxic. She had a healthy stress mindset. I had yet to develop that.

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transitions
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transitions

The first time the word transitions caught my notice, I was a recent college grad, teaching on a Caribbean Island. I was on the adventure of a lifetime!

On this particular day, maybe three weeks into my grand adventure, I felt deflated.

Swamped. Out of my depth. Sad. Overwhelmed.

Until I read an article that changed my perspective. Suddenly my overwhelm was no longer a sign of weakness. It felt… legit. Reasonable, even.

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Transitions always involve an ending

Transitions always involve an ending

It was my first Thanksgiving home in years. When we went around the table naming what we were thankful for, I faltered.

I did have much to be thankful for, yet other feelings preoccupied me. I felt adrift, disoriented, misunderstood and a bit disappointing. And I couldn’t quite grasp why.


I’d been so excited to come home. And yet, I didn’t feel at home at all. This was the place where I used to belong and was used to belonging, but I no longer fit.

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What makes motherhood so hard?  The problem of “ideal parenting”
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What makes motherhood so hard? The problem of “ideal parenting”

Parents feel pressure to do parenting right—from sleep to food to screen time. When the ideal approach is presented as the only option, it feels like anything less is bad parenting. Emily Oster argues that second bests exist and some are better and safer than others. Knowing this enables us make better decisions and feel less stress as parents. Let’s stop making parenting harder than it needs to be and discover the power of second bests.

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What are you carrying? Our unrealistic expectations about ourselves as mothers.
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What are you carrying? Our unrealistic expectations about ourselves as mothers.

We hold onto things, don’t we? Not just clothes, but roles, identities, expectations, labels. They’re familiar and they’re ours. So, we keep carrying them.


But some of those things are just weighing us down. They no longer fit our lives and they are HEAVY. It’s time to unpack. Motherhood doesn’t need to be this hard.

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